Sammi says:
Just wanted to get some views. Basically found out yesterday my 15year
old sis has had sex. Now i can't judge because I two first had sex at
15, but the difference is I had a lot more crap going on and my bf at
the time, made out he'd take me away from it all and love me forever
blah blah, soon disappeared after and I wasn't in a good place to make a
mature decision, just did it. Now there's 8years difference between us
and I always hoped and talk to her about just waiting til 16 so she's a
bit more mature and knows everything about sex and protection, brief
detail, never promoted it. But she's done the same.
Why are children ranging from 12-15yrs having sex. I have a 2yr old
daughter and I'm now worried that in the long future, is my daughter to
going to be having sex young? Is it the schools fault for poor sex
education or the parents? Are the friends they hang around with,
encouraging it or promoting it as the cool thing to be doing as soon as
possible? In the uk the law says 16 is the legal age to have sex and
work, just like 17 to drive, 18 to drink. I've always thought 16 was
young, sex affects you with out you realising at that age, I remember
just feeling empty after, like oh that's all he wanted from me. It's
happened now and I hope my sis had a better experience and never regrets
it, but now it's the part of possible young pregnancy and I think that
scares me more, don't want that for her or to consider abortion, you
know what I mean, sex complicates everything if your not mature enough
to deal with it like an adult. Yeh it's fun, and I was stupid when I was
younger but is this society in the next decade still going to see an
increase of under age sex, young pregnancies and more abortions due to
this, or kids from broken homes, in foster care? More children on
benefits because their not even legal to work yet and then have to claim
for the rest of their life because they don't have qualifications as
couldn't finish high school? It's just shocking and worrying now. You
can see now in the 21st century, kids just don't stay kids and want to
be adults straight away. But how do we slow them down and make them see
being a child is a great thing and goes too quickly, you spend your
whole life being an adult, it's boring! Sex is every where so I will
talk to my kids at an appropriate age, but what's that age? I'm not one
of those people, I have a health view on sex and will hopefully make
sure my kids do too. 'm just asking.
If a teen wants to have sex, there's not a lot you can do to stop it
directly. We can however help the situation a lot by providing lots of
free non-judgemental help, education, advice and support, so they are
fully aware of the consequences and the different mindsets of boys and
girls, which basically boil down to this: boys have relationships to get
sex, and girls have sex to get relationships.
This gives a shrewd girl a degree of power - she can set the terms,
time and place. Boys who use the "you would if you love me" tactic can
be responded with "if you love me you'll wait until I'm ready". On a
practical note, any girl having unprotected sex needs in the first
instance to get the morning after pill, and secondly get herself tested
for chlamydia and HIV.
Guys and girls who are better informed and understand each other will
make better decisions, but there will always be fools.
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