Ygnrt says:
Women when having sex have to feel comfortable around you. At least that
is what I was told. Why do some girls take forever to feel comfortable
around a guy? Is it have to do with trust? In one of my past
relationships which lasted 5 years my ex would get upset when I would
ask her to do a certain thing to me. For 4 years she always said she
would, but she never did and that was a lie. She obviously didn't feel
comfy enough with me. She supposedly loved me and went into depression
after I dumped her. But if she loved me so much why didn't she feel
comfy enough and trust me?
I am just curious what goes through a woman's head. When they say they need to feel comfortable around a guy to do things.
If the specific activity was that important to you, you were clearly
with the wrong woman! Having said that, you have more to learn about
sexual relationships.
All relationships are about compromise. Inevitably in bed, you will both
have different preferences. If one of yours is clearly repulsive to the
other, you then have a decision to make. How much do you love her? If
you love her, you will not force her or even put pressure on her to do
something she hates - you will sacrifice that preference in order to
keep her.
Everyone is unique, and what is sexy to one is disgusting to another -
it's nothing to do with how comfortable you are in a relationship, but
purely to do with what you like. I suspect that she was comfortable with
you, but not with what you wanted to do.
Please understand that sexual relationships are not about you getting
your way - it's about giving as well as getting pleasure. You can't give
pleasure if she hates what you're doing. If you are not sexually
compatible, or you are not prepared to compromise, the relationship is
doomed from the start.
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