Laura says:
My significant other dumped me about 2 wks and treated me terribly. He
badmouthed me at work and to neighbors and did everything he could to
make me jealous. Also said he no longer wanted anything else to do with
with me and how happy he was without me Also refused to watch our 3 yr
old because he claimed I was using him to make us get back together.
Basically he did this all on a whim which left me without adequate time
to get childcare so I had to miss work.
Well I found out that while
separated he has been giving his female coworkers rides to work and also
ended up giving some girl 500 dollars. I found this out because he is
now trying to reconcile saying that he will NOW work with me on the
childcare issue etc. The thing that burns me up is that he took some
other girl to work and refused to watch our son, so therefore I had to
take the day off.
Clearly not all men are the same but generally speaking why would a man
do something like this? He is now trying to save face and begging me not
tell anyone how this woman tricked him out of 500 dollars. I told him
that he is deceptive and cannot be trusted. Although I have not been
perfect I have NEVER used him for money.
Also why the change of heart now?
Update : I know that we are separated and NOT together therefore he has
not obligation to me, BUT why treat me like CRAP and then turn around
and now try to help me.
You're not imagining it - you HAVE been treated badly, and like a lot of
men do he's trying to make out that it's all your fault - it isn't! To
use an innocent child as a weapon is particularly unforgivable. I would
not trust this man for a moment - he probably doesn't want the grief of a
messy breakup, but he should of thought about that before.
You deserve better. I'm afraid that if you give in to the temptation to
let this man back into your life you will only be sorry and delay the
inevitable.
Showing posts with label betrayal. Show all posts
Showing posts with label betrayal. Show all posts
Thursday, 19 June 2014
Why is my husbnd masturbating instead of having sex with me?
Taylor says:
I found out husband masturbated this morning after he woke me up and started getting ready for work. I'm really disappointed, sad, and feel angry that he didn't with me. He would have rathered jerked one while eating breakfast. How do I know...the washcloth he used to clean himself off with was in the basket and sorry to be explicit, but I know what he smells like because I give him BJ very frequently.
He never gave me the sign that he wanted sex, just his normal hug and kiss and out to the kitchen where he looks at the computer. It makes me feel like a nobody, nothing and something physically he doesn't want to be with. We have great sex when we do, but that is to his boundry of only ever three day rule. I want it everyday and he knows this. Simply, he doesn't want it with me all the time like I do, he wants it (mentally) with other women.
He also knows that I will do everything in the bedroom, EVERYTHING...I never say no and he says I fullfill every fantasy but now I know or have known this is a lie. I WANT TO KNOW WHY??? DO I masturbate, hell no! Do I fantasize, Hell no, why should I when I have him. I don't think like other women do.
I'm seriously thinking about asking him about this plus telling him we need a separation physically. This whole thing makes me very uncomfortable and second best. Can someone with a heart and no hurtful words please tell me what to do in this situation. I'm so uncomfortable with him right now when he calls at lunch I don't think I can talk.
You certainly have to talk about this but you are a little naive about the nature of men. ALL men masturbate and fantasize no matter how great their relationships and sex life is. That in itself doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or your relationship. The reason we do it is mainly because we can be completely selfish in our fantasies without hurting or disappointing real women - it is a mental as well as physical relief.
The REAL issue here is why is he imposing this 3-day rule? Once that is understood, you can find an answer together. Does he feel overwhelmed by your sexual appetite? Is it a power trip? Does he have performance anxiety? By all means ask him why he's masturbating when you'd gladly have sex with him, but don't pre-judge him - he could be very happy with you and have personal issues.
And by the way, if you are sexually frustrated, there's no reason why you shouldn't masturbate - it's not disloyalty, just harmless relief - and actually quite good for you.
I found out husband masturbated this morning after he woke me up and started getting ready for work. I'm really disappointed, sad, and feel angry that he didn't with me. He would have rathered jerked one while eating breakfast. How do I know...the washcloth he used to clean himself off with was in the basket and sorry to be explicit, but I know what he smells like because I give him BJ very frequently.
He never gave me the sign that he wanted sex, just his normal hug and kiss and out to the kitchen where he looks at the computer. It makes me feel like a nobody, nothing and something physically he doesn't want to be with. We have great sex when we do, but that is to his boundry of only ever three day rule. I want it everyday and he knows this. Simply, he doesn't want it with me all the time like I do, he wants it (mentally) with other women.
He also knows that I will do everything in the bedroom, EVERYTHING...I never say no and he says I fullfill every fantasy but now I know or have known this is a lie. I WANT TO KNOW WHY??? DO I masturbate, hell no! Do I fantasize, Hell no, why should I when I have him. I don't think like other women do.
I'm seriously thinking about asking him about this plus telling him we need a separation physically. This whole thing makes me very uncomfortable and second best. Can someone with a heart and no hurtful words please tell me what to do in this situation. I'm so uncomfortable with him right now when he calls at lunch I don't think I can talk.
You certainly have to talk about this but you are a little naive about the nature of men. ALL men masturbate and fantasize no matter how great their relationships and sex life is. That in itself doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or your relationship. The reason we do it is mainly because we can be completely selfish in our fantasies without hurting or disappointing real women - it is a mental as well as physical relief.
The REAL issue here is why is he imposing this 3-day rule? Once that is understood, you can find an answer together. Does he feel overwhelmed by your sexual appetite? Is it a power trip? Does he have performance anxiety? By all means ask him why he's masturbating when you'd gladly have sex with him, but don't pre-judge him - he could be very happy with you and have personal issues.
And by the way, if you are sexually frustrated, there's no reason why you shouldn't masturbate - it's not disloyalty, just harmless relief - and actually quite good for you.
I'm having a really bad time at school
Aravind says:
I am an introvert, can't say no. I can't make 'good' friends. Those people often ditch me and find new friends, some don't even care to listen when i say something to them, I don't know why. I don't have true friend at school and the people in my neighborhood too are either too old or too young for my age.Today was one one the worst days of my school life. People don't care for me, but the biggest blow was that one of my 'few' friends, whom I chatted with , shared lunch and basically everything betrayed me. In the English period, he rubbed my homework and told the teacher that I did not do it.
One 'bad' guy was with him, he too told the same, I could not convince the teacher and was punished. I it was just the bad guy, I could hold on, but knowing that one of my friends betrayed me haunted me this whole day. That day, all but for a few of my best of friend talked to me, the others just ignored me. I am very emotionally unbalanced, but held on till now. I feel like crying, I am very shy and so cant make good friends. The friend who betrayed me often copied on tests and did his homework in school, I have not complained, even if the baddest of the guys did the same, but he betrayed me,and that is unbearable. I am heartbroken , Please help me.
School is not the best experience for a lot of people, and for some it can be hell.
The first question you must ask is - do you wish to survive this? If you do then you must begin by telling yourself that you are determined to get through it.
To survive it you must break down your experience into chunks and get through one minute at a time, and instead of thinking about it all at once, deal with one problem at a time. Every bad experience is a lesson from which you can learn. Learn the lesson well and put it to use.
For example, how was that person able to access your homework and delete it? You must now take steps to ensure that no one can access your work, and if you can have a stored digital backup. Next, now you know that this friend was never a friend in the first place. You have now learned this and that some people let you down. However they can only let you down ONCE. You will now never trust that person again. By experience we learn who our true friends are by what they do.
Next, you still have some friends left. These are really all you need. You do not need to be Mr Popular, just a few people you can get on with at some point in your day. Grow these friendships by kindness, generosity and taking a genuine interest in them, which means lots of listening.
Do these things and life will be at least bearable. Do not let others know how unhappy you are as pupils at school are cruel and ruthless, and are happy to put you down to make themselves feel great. Wear a grin as often as possible. And finally, learn how to defend yourself and be fully prepared to be hurt in a fight rather than let yourself be bullied.
You can and will get through this. If I made it, so can you.
I am an introvert, can't say no. I can't make 'good' friends. Those people often ditch me and find new friends, some don't even care to listen when i say something to them, I don't know why. I don't have true friend at school and the people in my neighborhood too are either too old or too young for my age.Today was one one the worst days of my school life. People don't care for me, but the biggest blow was that one of my 'few' friends, whom I chatted with , shared lunch and basically everything betrayed me. In the English period, he rubbed my homework and told the teacher that I did not do it.
One 'bad' guy was with him, he too told the same, I could not convince the teacher and was punished. I it was just the bad guy, I could hold on, but knowing that one of my friends betrayed me haunted me this whole day. That day, all but for a few of my best of friend talked to me, the others just ignored me. I am very emotionally unbalanced, but held on till now. I feel like crying, I am very shy and so cant make good friends. The friend who betrayed me often copied on tests and did his homework in school, I have not complained, even if the baddest of the guys did the same, but he betrayed me,and that is unbearable. I am heartbroken , Please help me.
School is not the best experience for a lot of people, and for some it can be hell.
The first question you must ask is - do you wish to survive this? If you do then you must begin by telling yourself that you are determined to get through it.
To survive it you must break down your experience into chunks and get through one minute at a time, and instead of thinking about it all at once, deal with one problem at a time. Every bad experience is a lesson from which you can learn. Learn the lesson well and put it to use.
For example, how was that person able to access your homework and delete it? You must now take steps to ensure that no one can access your work, and if you can have a stored digital backup. Next, now you know that this friend was never a friend in the first place. You have now learned this and that some people let you down. However they can only let you down ONCE. You will now never trust that person again. By experience we learn who our true friends are by what they do.
Next, you still have some friends left. These are really all you need. You do not need to be Mr Popular, just a few people you can get on with at some point in your day. Grow these friendships by kindness, generosity and taking a genuine interest in them, which means lots of listening.
Do these things and life will be at least bearable. Do not let others know how unhappy you are as pupils at school are cruel and ruthless, and are happy to put you down to make themselves feel great. Wear a grin as often as possible. And finally, learn how to defend yourself and be fully prepared to be hurt in a fight rather than let yourself be bullied.
You can and will get through this. If I made it, so can you.
Tuesday, 17 June 2014
I caught my husband online with his ex
Trinity says:
My husband and I have been married for about a year and 5 months. I wasn't on facebook at the time but I just recently joined. My husband has been on it for a while. So yesterday I was logging on and his page was pulled up with a message box open and it was his EX that broke us up when I was pregnant with his child because we had problems all thru my pregnancy where he wouldn't come around etc.
But we are finally married and she messages him out of the blue giving him her number. I got mad about it and confronted him. He's mad at me saying I should not have messaged her asking why she gave him her number and I should not be mad. I was mad because this was an EX and I saw how they went on dates behind my back ,would send naked picts and all that and all.
How should I have responded to this situation yahoo community? Should I have acted like I didn't see it? or confronted a different way ?
Do I have a right to be mad? I felt disrespected, and like they thought I was stupid.
They girl said she saw that we were married but still thought it was okay to message him and try to reconnect.....
You're not imagining it - this is a highly unreasonable attitude from the pair of them. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. You were absolutely right to confront the pair of them. And it is absolutely NOT alright for them to conduct any sort of communication behind your back.
It's time for an ultimatum. He can break all contact with her, or all contact with YOU. If he refuses, the message is absolutely clear - HE CANNOT BE TRUSTED. Do you wish to continue in a marriage with a partner who is not prepared to give up on another woman for you, and is prepared to use deceit to keep seeing her? If there is no trust there is no relationship, only a dysfunctional mess.
It's better if it comes to it to admit you chose a guy not worthy of you rather than face a lifetime of being lied to. Stand your ground, even if that costs the marriage.
My husband and I have been married for about a year and 5 months. I wasn't on facebook at the time but I just recently joined. My husband has been on it for a while. So yesterday I was logging on and his page was pulled up with a message box open and it was his EX that broke us up when I was pregnant with his child because we had problems all thru my pregnancy where he wouldn't come around etc.
But we are finally married and she messages him out of the blue giving him her number. I got mad about it and confronted him. He's mad at me saying I should not have messaged her asking why she gave him her number and I should not be mad. I was mad because this was an EX and I saw how they went on dates behind my back ,would send naked picts and all that and all.
How should I have responded to this situation yahoo community? Should I have acted like I didn't see it? or confronted a different way ?
Do I have a right to be mad? I felt disrespected, and like they thought I was stupid.
They girl said she saw that we were married but still thought it was okay to message him and try to reconnect.....
You're not imagining it - this is a highly unreasonable attitude from the pair of them. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. You were absolutely right to confront the pair of them. And it is absolutely NOT alright for them to conduct any sort of communication behind your back.
It's time for an ultimatum. He can break all contact with her, or all contact with YOU. If he refuses, the message is absolutely clear - HE CANNOT BE TRUSTED. Do you wish to continue in a marriage with a partner who is not prepared to give up on another woman for you, and is prepared to use deceit to keep seeing her? If there is no trust there is no relationship, only a dysfunctional mess.
It's better if it comes to it to admit you chose a guy not worthy of you rather than face a lifetime of being lied to. Stand your ground, even if that costs the marriage.
I am trapped in a very unhappy marriage!
JustCurious says:
Long story short I am in a very unhappy and dysfunctional marriage. We've been married for 8 years and have two young daughters (6 and 2). I grew up in a broken home, never saw my father and I don't want that for my children.
Unfortunately I don't think he's leaving me much of a choice at this point. 9 months into our marriage he had a drunken one night stand. I forgave, promises were made, none of which were kept and I should have walked but I was a hope junkie, thinking we could weather the storm.
Throughout these 8 years it's been a roller coaster of him binging three or four times a month, doing something stupid and selfish (like cheating again and getting arrested) and me forgiving him. In between all of this we had another child and his behavior seemed to get worse after her birth. He is impatient, judgemental, verbally and emotionally cruel.
There have been numerous times throughout our relationship that I have needed to seek medical attention (gallbladder attack, Norovirus, premature labor @32 weeks) and he's never been there for me. He says that I am the problem, if only I were kinder to him, thinner, a better cook, took better care of our children...etc etc.
Yet I find myself constantly assuring him that I will never leave him, that I don't believe in divorce, that I don't want our kids growing up like we did. There is a war in my soul because I want so badly to be free but I don't want the pain that's going to come with divorce. I really could use some advice?
Your choice is very clear - you can be a martyr and sacrifice your happiness to someone who neither appreciates it nor deserves it, or you can be honest with yourself, admit you made a big mistake, admit you made promises you should never have made and get the hell out of there.
One thing is absolutely certain - he's not going to get any better. Are you honestly prepared to accept him as he is, and be blamed for being the problem?
I understand how you desperately wanted to avoid imposing a breakup on your children, but bringing them up in a dysfunctional nightmare is a far worse option. Having decided to bring children into the world, your absolute priority must be their best interest. You cannot possibly bring them up well if your are desperately unhappy.
I am afraid that you have a lot more suffering to come whether or not you divorce, but at least a divorce offers you afresh start at some point in the future. In that future, set high standards for any man who comes near you and insist that what it takes to get you, it takes to keep you - loneliness is better than the hell of the wrong guy.
Finally reach out for as much support as you can get in the months and years to come, you're going to need it!
Long story short I am in a very unhappy and dysfunctional marriage. We've been married for 8 years and have two young daughters (6 and 2). I grew up in a broken home, never saw my father and I don't want that for my children.
Unfortunately I don't think he's leaving me much of a choice at this point. 9 months into our marriage he had a drunken one night stand. I forgave, promises were made, none of which were kept and I should have walked but I was a hope junkie, thinking we could weather the storm.
Throughout these 8 years it's been a roller coaster of him binging three or four times a month, doing something stupid and selfish (like cheating again and getting arrested) and me forgiving him. In between all of this we had another child and his behavior seemed to get worse after her birth. He is impatient, judgemental, verbally and emotionally cruel.
There have been numerous times throughout our relationship that I have needed to seek medical attention (gallbladder attack, Norovirus, premature labor @32 weeks) and he's never been there for me. He says that I am the problem, if only I were kinder to him, thinner, a better cook, took better care of our children...etc etc.
Yet I find myself constantly assuring him that I will never leave him, that I don't believe in divorce, that I don't want our kids growing up like we did. There is a war in my soul because I want so badly to be free but I don't want the pain that's going to come with divorce. I really could use some advice?
Your choice is very clear - you can be a martyr and sacrifice your happiness to someone who neither appreciates it nor deserves it, or you can be honest with yourself, admit you made a big mistake, admit you made promises you should never have made and get the hell out of there.
One thing is absolutely certain - he's not going to get any better. Are you honestly prepared to accept him as he is, and be blamed for being the problem?
I understand how you desperately wanted to avoid imposing a breakup on your children, but bringing them up in a dysfunctional nightmare is a far worse option. Having decided to bring children into the world, your absolute priority must be their best interest. You cannot possibly bring them up well if your are desperately unhappy.
I am afraid that you have a lot more suffering to come whether or not you divorce, but at least a divorce offers you afresh start at some point in the future. In that future, set high standards for any man who comes near you and insist that what it takes to get you, it takes to keep you - loneliness is better than the hell of the wrong guy.
Finally reach out for as much support as you can get in the months and years to come, you're going to need it!
Friday, 30 May 2014
My ex posted a picture of my penis online!
Max says
So my ex girlfriend's friend posted a picture of a penis on her account profile pics, and I'm 95 percent sure it's mine, and I remember my ex kept saying that she loved my penis. Then she turned a little promiscuous, and we broke up, and now she's totally off hanging out with bad people (I haven't been with. her for a year and a half). So I see her friend posted a pic of me just belly-down so you don't see my face or anything. At first I was so angry, but should I call my ex, or ignore it since no one knows it's me? I hope she doesn't know herself it's me because I live near her! help!
Welcome to the Digital Revolution - one disadvantage is that anything you do is all over the web forevermore. Your next move is a no-brainer - just let it go and put it down to experience. But learn your lesson! Think twice before you do anything in front of a camera in future.
So my ex girlfriend's friend posted a picture of a penis on her account profile pics, and I'm 95 percent sure it's mine, and I remember my ex kept saying that she loved my penis. Then she turned a little promiscuous, and we broke up, and now she's totally off hanging out with bad people (I haven't been with. her for a year and a half). So I see her friend posted a pic of me just belly-down so you don't see my face or anything. At first I was so angry, but should I call my ex, or ignore it since no one knows it's me? I hope she doesn't know herself it's me because I live near her! help!
Welcome to the Digital Revolution - one disadvantage is that anything you do is all over the web forevermore. Your next move is a no-brainer - just let it go and put it down to experience. But learn your lesson! Think twice before you do anything in front of a camera in future.
Tuesday, 27 May 2014
Does thinking someone else during sex mean cheating?
Gold Finger says
I love her but sometimes i can't keep myself from thinking about someone else while sexing with her. Is this normal?
Any man who claims never to have done this is a liar! Plenty of women do this too btw. It doesn't really matter if the relationship is warm and loving and the sex mutually satisfying. But don't ruin things by telling her straight afterwards!
I love her but sometimes i can't keep myself from thinking about someone else while sexing with her. Is this normal?
Any man who claims never to have done this is a liar! Plenty of women do this too btw. It doesn't really matter if the relationship is warm and loving and the sex mutually satisfying. But don't ruin things by telling her straight afterwards!
Sunday, 25 May 2014
Our relationship has gone sour
Sarah Jane says:
My boyfriend and I are together 4years next month. We are in our 20s. In love. Everything was perfect for the first 3years. He was head over in heels in love. .always giving me compliments ..flowers at my door ..whisking me away . You name it I got it. He went to Australia last summer and since he came back everything has gone downhill. We fight.. I cry. I have gotten jealous problems since his holiday I don't no why but I do. He looks at girls and says he never dose . I no he dose. I just don't feel like I'm enough for him. He never dose anything I said above anymore. I feel like hes taking me for granted. I love him god so much I don't want to leave him. He always says im this im that.. he always tells me to go away dosnt talk to me until I have to go ring or text him. Im chasing after him and why he doesn't give me the time or day anymore really. Its making me lose sleep and feel sick and worried. He always says ' I don't no anymore this relationship makes me ****' then I say ok what am I to you?! Am I your girlfriend or what if u feel like this . Then he goes crazy and says ' do I have to answer every fucking day I do want to be with you I cant deal with this ****' seriously what am I to him . : (
I'm sorry to tell you this but this relationship is dead - long dead - destroyed by jealousy, possessiveness, mistrust and resentment. It's now turned toxic and is hurting both of you. He is not strong enough yet to do what's best for both of you and dump you completely.
However much you want him, I think you know in your heart that this is so over. One of you has to make the move sooner or later, and the sooner it's done the better.
Guys by the way, even loyal committed guys can't resist an ogle at other girls. That's fine so long as they keep their hands, heart and other parts solely for you. You may want to bear that in mind for future relationships.
My boyfriend and I are together 4years next month. We are in our 20s. In love. Everything was perfect for the first 3years. He was head over in heels in love. .always giving me compliments ..flowers at my door ..whisking me away . You name it I got it. He went to Australia last summer and since he came back everything has gone downhill. We fight.. I cry. I have gotten jealous problems since his holiday I don't no why but I do. He looks at girls and says he never dose . I no he dose. I just don't feel like I'm enough for him. He never dose anything I said above anymore. I feel like hes taking me for granted. I love him god so much I don't want to leave him. He always says im this im that.. he always tells me to go away dosnt talk to me until I have to go ring or text him. Im chasing after him and why he doesn't give me the time or day anymore really. Its making me lose sleep and feel sick and worried. He always says ' I don't no anymore this relationship makes me ****' then I say ok what am I to you?! Am I your girlfriend or what if u feel like this . Then he goes crazy and says ' do I have to answer every fucking day I do want to be with you I cant deal with this ****' seriously what am I to him . : (
I'm sorry to tell you this but this relationship is dead - long dead - destroyed by jealousy, possessiveness, mistrust and resentment. It's now turned toxic and is hurting both of you. He is not strong enough yet to do what's best for both of you and dump you completely.
However much you want him, I think you know in your heart that this is so over. One of you has to make the move sooner or later, and the sooner it's done the better.
Guys by the way, even loyal committed guys can't resist an ogle at other girls. That's fine so long as they keep their hands, heart and other parts solely for you. You may want to bear that in mind for future relationships.
Friday, 23 May 2014
Should I stay friends with my ex?
Curious says:
He left me because I broke his heart and then he didn't really talk to me for three months unless I spoke to him then all of a sudden the other day he asked to come see me n i said yes. We ended up kissing and then I asked him if he's wanting to be back with me. He said no he wants to explore (as in other girls etc, he's 20) and he said he does love me but doesn't want to be with me because he doesn't trust me whatsoever and because of what I did.
Yet he was acting the same, kissing me on the forehead cuddling with me n acting like my boyfriend so I didn't really feel the pain and hurt until he went home later n to make it worse I had sex with him. It hurt because I realised he's still choosing not to be with me regardless.
What do you think of the situation and should I stay friends with him or??
There's no question that some people do become friends with their exes, but only when they can stick to the boundaries that friendships involve.
In your case I don't think you can - you will just mess with each other's heads and keep hurting each other. It will be better for both of you to make a complete break with no hard feelings. There is also now too much distrust and hurt to resurrect a romance. Learn the lessons from what went wrong and move on.
He left me because I broke his heart and then he didn't really talk to me for three months unless I spoke to him then all of a sudden the other day he asked to come see me n i said yes. We ended up kissing and then I asked him if he's wanting to be back with me. He said no he wants to explore (as in other girls etc, he's 20) and he said he does love me but doesn't want to be with me because he doesn't trust me whatsoever and because of what I did.
Yet he was acting the same, kissing me on the forehead cuddling with me n acting like my boyfriend so I didn't really feel the pain and hurt until he went home later n to make it worse I had sex with him. It hurt because I realised he's still choosing not to be with me regardless.
What do you think of the situation and should I stay friends with him or??
There's no question that some people do become friends with their exes, but only when they can stick to the boundaries that friendships involve.
In your case I don't think you can - you will just mess with each other's heads and keep hurting each other. It will be better for both of you to make a complete break with no hard feelings. There is also now too much distrust and hurt to resurrect a romance. Learn the lessons from what went wrong and move on.
He gave me Chlamydia TWICE
Anonymous says:
- Been seeing a guy for about 4 months now, we were pretty much in a relationship but without the official 'label' of being in one.
-We used to have sex often and i had symptoms for chamydia once so i got checked and i was positive, he said he was negative and it definately wasnt him and must have been my ex. I asked my ex and he was negative too, so i thought it mustve been this new guy, but i gave him a second chance because i really liked talking to him and i knew that he was probably just embarased and if he secretly had it he would get treated for it anyway.
- So 2 months go by and we're still talking and having sex and i get tested again just to be safe and it turns out im positive for chlamydia again, so i sent him a long abusive message saying that he has been lying this whole time and telling him how stupid he was for not getting treated properly and for giving to me again.
-He lies to me for another 2 days saying he doesnt know what im talking about and is upset that im acussing him and later on he calls me and admits to having it from the very start.
-He said he was sorry a milliom times and is literally begging me to keep talking to him, but im not sure what to do. he really hurt me and put my health at risk and let me have unprotected sex with him while he hadn't fully finished his treatment which i think is so rude and disrespectful, but i really like him and he promised me he'll never lie again.
This would be his last chance, should I forgive him?
It's time for you to stop being a mug. You should have dumped this guy the very first time he lied to you about such a serious health issue. You have absolutely nothing to gain being anywhere near this man. Trust is absolutely essential to a relationship and this highly irresponsible individual is not worthy of any.
And in future, INSIST on a condom with any new sexual partner until there is a long-term monogamous commitment.
- Been seeing a guy for about 4 months now, we were pretty much in a relationship but without the official 'label' of being in one.
-We used to have sex often and i had symptoms for chamydia once so i got checked and i was positive, he said he was negative and it definately wasnt him and must have been my ex. I asked my ex and he was negative too, so i thought it mustve been this new guy, but i gave him a second chance because i really liked talking to him and i knew that he was probably just embarased and if he secretly had it he would get treated for it anyway.
- So 2 months go by and we're still talking and having sex and i get tested again just to be safe and it turns out im positive for chlamydia again, so i sent him a long abusive message saying that he has been lying this whole time and telling him how stupid he was for not getting treated properly and for giving to me again.
-He lies to me for another 2 days saying he doesnt know what im talking about and is upset that im acussing him and later on he calls me and admits to having it from the very start.
-He said he was sorry a milliom times and is literally begging me to keep talking to him, but im not sure what to do. he really hurt me and put my health at risk and let me have unprotected sex with him while he hadn't fully finished his treatment which i think is so rude and disrespectful, but i really like him and he promised me he'll never lie again.
This would be his last chance, should I forgive him?
It's time for you to stop being a mug. You should have dumped this guy the very first time he lied to you about such a serious health issue. You have absolutely nothing to gain being anywhere near this man. Trust is absolutely essential to a relationship and this highly irresponsible individual is not worthy of any.
And in future, INSIST on a condom with any new sexual partner until there is a long-term monogamous commitment.
Tuesday, 20 May 2014
My marriage is in trouble!
Nicole says:
In July of 2013, my husband got with a group of people that he thought would help him in his business. They took him in, gave him a car, financed his club gigs, and kept him busy. Within a few months, he stopped coming home, started partying all night and hanging with strippers. He even told me he wanted a divorce because he was tired of me bitching about him not coming home. My husband was never like this before!! This went on for 5 months. I was so hurt, I would cry every day.
He would see me cry and walk right out the door. As it turned out, those people lied to him about a lot of things so he decided to stop associating with them. He came home and apologized and was back to the person he was before these people came along. My thing is, I can't get over it!
He was so arrogant and nasty to me when he thought those people were helping him. I hate him for it and he knows it. He's trying so hard to make me forget, and is being such a sweetheart, but I'm scarred. I get so angry with him and he'll just sit there like a little puppy. Honestly, i feel like I just don't know what to do. I'm still hurting from it 3 months later. Please help!
To say I forgive you is easy to say, but as you are finding out, very hard to do!
The fact is that your relationship has been damaged and will never be the same again, because now you know what he's capable of doing in the wrong circumstances. Trust, once lost, is very difficult and very slow to come back again.
If this relationship is to continue or if it doesn't, that hurt ISN'T going to ever go away. At best, it will become less painful and easier to carry with time. You have to accept that like you would for any bad experience. Your husband won't ever be able fix it.
The question is therefore not how to fix it, but do you still love him, and do you still want him? If the answer is YES then dictate reasonable terms for staying together - and if he breaks them, end it. But beating him continually over the head with what he did will not help you, him or the marriage. If you are going to carry on, you will have to be able to live with the hurt in return for being treated better from now on.
But only you know how strong you are and how deep your love is. Be completely honest with yourself. Only give him this second chance if you definitely don't want to be without him, and you are prepared to accept that he is not as strong as you would like him to be.
In July of 2013, my husband got with a group of people that he thought would help him in his business. They took him in, gave him a car, financed his club gigs, and kept him busy. Within a few months, he stopped coming home, started partying all night and hanging with strippers. He even told me he wanted a divorce because he was tired of me bitching about him not coming home. My husband was never like this before!! This went on for 5 months. I was so hurt, I would cry every day.
He would see me cry and walk right out the door. As it turned out, those people lied to him about a lot of things so he decided to stop associating with them. He came home and apologized and was back to the person he was before these people came along. My thing is, I can't get over it!
He was so arrogant and nasty to me when he thought those people were helping him. I hate him for it and he knows it. He's trying so hard to make me forget, and is being such a sweetheart, but I'm scarred. I get so angry with him and he'll just sit there like a little puppy. Honestly, i feel like I just don't know what to do. I'm still hurting from it 3 months later. Please help!
To say I forgive you is easy to say, but as you are finding out, very hard to do!
The fact is that your relationship has been damaged and will never be the same again, because now you know what he's capable of doing in the wrong circumstances. Trust, once lost, is very difficult and very slow to come back again.
If this relationship is to continue or if it doesn't, that hurt ISN'T going to ever go away. At best, it will become less painful and easier to carry with time. You have to accept that like you would for any bad experience. Your husband won't ever be able fix it.
The question is therefore not how to fix it, but do you still love him, and do you still want him? If the answer is YES then dictate reasonable terms for staying together - and if he breaks them, end it. But beating him continually over the head with what he did will not help you, him or the marriage. If you are going to carry on, you will have to be able to live with the hurt in return for being treated better from now on.
But only you know how strong you are and how deep your love is. Be completely honest with yourself. Only give him this second chance if you definitely don't want to be without him, and you are prepared to accept that he is not as strong as you would like him to be.
Tuesday, 13 May 2014
Should I be angry with my boyfriend?
Laura says:
My best friend is close friends with my boyfriend and the other day she went to his house to study but they ended up just watching a movie, my favourite movie. It hurt my feelings because they never even told me that they were going to do that. They meet up alone sometimes and make plans with eachother, but I just feel jealous because I feel like that should be me. Just by the way she has a boyfriend but doesnt have a very good relationship with him. They talk and text all the time and Im usually fine with it but it just really bugged me this time. I feel silly bringing it up because she is my best friend and they didnt do anything. Its not that I dont want him to have any friends that are girls, I just dont think that its appropriate for them to do that without even telling me or my best friends boyfriend who doesnt even know about it. A while ago when I wasn't around they also went to the movies alone together.
What should I do? Do you think I'm being paranoid?
Thanks for the help :)
You're not imagining it - this isn't right. If he is keeping his meetings with her from you, they are spending time alone together and her own relationship is rocky, anyone would be suspicious. And you don't actually know if they did anything or not. I think expecting you to accept all this is too big an ask. Never trust a man who wants to be alone with another woman and wants you to accept it. I fear that your best friend may put her own feelings before any loyalty to you.
I'm afraid that this is not going to end well whatever you decide. The bravest and best thing to do is issue an ultimatum - this stops or they're both "fired". To be honest I would go further than this and dump the pair of them right now. The foundation of any relationship is trust, and you cannot trust either of these two.
My best friend is close friends with my boyfriend and the other day she went to his house to study but they ended up just watching a movie, my favourite movie. It hurt my feelings because they never even told me that they were going to do that. They meet up alone sometimes and make plans with eachother, but I just feel jealous because I feel like that should be me. Just by the way she has a boyfriend but doesnt have a very good relationship with him. They talk and text all the time and Im usually fine with it but it just really bugged me this time. I feel silly bringing it up because she is my best friend and they didnt do anything. Its not that I dont want him to have any friends that are girls, I just dont think that its appropriate for them to do that without even telling me or my best friends boyfriend who doesnt even know about it. A while ago when I wasn't around they also went to the movies alone together.
What should I do? Do you think I'm being paranoid?
Thanks for the help :)
You're not imagining it - this isn't right. If he is keeping his meetings with her from you, they are spending time alone together and her own relationship is rocky, anyone would be suspicious. And you don't actually know if they did anything or not. I think expecting you to accept all this is too big an ask. Never trust a man who wants to be alone with another woman and wants you to accept it. I fear that your best friend may put her own feelings before any loyalty to you.
I'm afraid that this is not going to end well whatever you decide. The bravest and best thing to do is issue an ultimatum - this stops or they're both "fired". To be honest I would go further than this and dump the pair of them right now. The foundation of any relationship is trust, and you cannot trust either of these two.
I want him to help him heal
Living Life says
Almost a year ago I made the biggest mistake of my life; cheating on my fiance/father of my children. I was afraid of commitment and was not thinking right, but never mind why I did it, point is it was done. I have realized how wrong I was and how much I have hurt him. I don't ever want him to know that pain again, and I know that I will never do this again because of that. I love this man more than my next breath, and just want him to be happy, but I'm running out ideas of how to help him. I've even tried telling him that he would be happier if he'd leave me, and I've waived my rights to child support if he were to do so. Can anyone give advice on how to help him?
There are three separate issues here. Firstly he needs to be at least willing to forgive you - that will come first. Healing however will take some considerable time, and you will need to be patient. It's a consequence of your action and you will have to live with it for some time - there is no quick fix. The third issue is trust - that will take even longer and may never come back fully. Again this is a price you will have to accept and pay. It's important not to keep going over in your mind what you did as that will help neither of you. You can only change what you do now. Focus on that, and if your mutual love is strong enough, your relationship will survive.
Almost a year ago I made the biggest mistake of my life; cheating on my fiance/father of my children. I was afraid of commitment and was not thinking right, but never mind why I did it, point is it was done. I have realized how wrong I was and how much I have hurt him. I don't ever want him to know that pain again, and I know that I will never do this again because of that. I love this man more than my next breath, and just want him to be happy, but I'm running out ideas of how to help him. I've even tried telling him that he would be happier if he'd leave me, and I've waived my rights to child support if he were to do so. Can anyone give advice on how to help him?
There are three separate issues here. Firstly he needs to be at least willing to forgive you - that will come first. Healing however will take some considerable time, and you will need to be patient. It's a consequence of your action and you will have to live with it for some time - there is no quick fix. The third issue is trust - that will take even longer and may never come back fully. Again this is a price you will have to accept and pay. It's important not to keep going over in your mind what you did as that will help neither of you. You can only change what you do now. Focus on that, and if your mutual love is strong enough, your relationship will survive.
Thursday, 20 February 2014
I can't bear to see my ex with his fiancee!
Lucia says:
We were together for three years. Then he changed his mind, and told me to be just friends and said we can't marry, and now he is getting marry to an other girl.
He doesn't seem that happy, but when ever I see he is laughing with his fiance, I feel too sad.
I stop contacting him, but I see him in our club sometimes.
This feeling hurts me that I feel he is happy with his life after making me sad, and he knows I am sad. But he doesn't do anything.
He just said he is sorry for hurting me, and he said he can't bear the pain of guilt and he cried.
But I am still sad. His apologize didn't change my mood. Because I think if he was really sorry, he would never done such thing to us.
How can I cope with this pain of seeing him happy and do not suffer???
Thank you
Many of us have been there - seeing your ex with someone else. Exceedingly painful isn't it? It only really becomes easier when you yourself have moved on and built a new life for yourself, and that takes time. Be patient, it does get better. There is life, a much better one, after your ex. Go on YouTube and sing along to Gloria Gaynor's I WILL SURVIVE a few times. It's inspiring!
We were together for three years. Then he changed his mind, and told me to be just friends and said we can't marry, and now he is getting marry to an other girl.
He doesn't seem that happy, but when ever I see he is laughing with his fiance, I feel too sad.
I stop contacting him, but I see him in our club sometimes.
This feeling hurts me that I feel he is happy with his life after making me sad, and he knows I am sad. But he doesn't do anything.
He just said he is sorry for hurting me, and he said he can't bear the pain of guilt and he cried.
But I am still sad. His apologize didn't change my mood. Because I think if he was really sorry, he would never done such thing to us.
How can I cope with this pain of seeing him happy and do not suffer???
Thank you
Many of us have been there - seeing your ex with someone else. Exceedingly painful isn't it? It only really becomes easier when you yourself have moved on and built a new life for yourself, and that takes time. Be patient, it does get better. There is life, a much better one, after your ex. Go on YouTube and sing along to Gloria Gaynor's I WILL SURVIVE a few times. It's inspiring!
Why can't guys stay loyal?
Anonymous says:
I mean seriously I don't understand you immature, pathetic, disgusting, cold heated guys who cheat, in the end you will be lonely, no girl wants a cheater. I'm just so curious as to why it so easy for guys to cheat. You know what if you fell for another chick how bout you do the right thing and break up with your gf then be with the other girl instead of cheat on your gf. In life I believe you will never be satisfied if you constantly try to look for better, how bout trying this stay with one for life like I don't understand, work issues out, just DON'T CHEAT.
You never realise what you have till it's gone.
In the first place, be reassured that we are not ALL like that.
Of course a lot of guys are. This is because male sexuality is fundamentally different. Females are the ones who have the babies. Therefore, female sexuality is based on the best scenario for a child - a strong committed single individual. Males are driven by genes that want to spread their seed as far and wide as possible. Females grant sex as an honour, men grasp it as a prize! Females have sex to get relationships, men have relationships to get sex.
That said, there is far more to a person than their sexuality. A good strong man is capable (up to a point) of controlling his sexuality for the one that he loves. That is he kind of man you are looking for.
I mean seriously I don't understand you immature, pathetic, disgusting, cold heated guys who cheat, in the end you will be lonely, no girl wants a cheater. I'm just so curious as to why it so easy for guys to cheat. You know what if you fell for another chick how bout you do the right thing and break up with your gf then be with the other girl instead of cheat on your gf. In life I believe you will never be satisfied if you constantly try to look for better, how bout trying this stay with one for life like I don't understand, work issues out, just DON'T CHEAT.
You never realise what you have till it's gone.
In the first place, be reassured that we are not ALL like that.
Of course a lot of guys are. This is because male sexuality is fundamentally different. Females are the ones who have the babies. Therefore, female sexuality is based on the best scenario for a child - a strong committed single individual. Males are driven by genes that want to spread their seed as far and wide as possible. Females grant sex as an honour, men grasp it as a prize! Females have sex to get relationships, men have relationships to get sex.
That said, there is far more to a person than their sexuality. A good strong man is capable (up to a point) of controlling his sexuality for the one that he loves. That is he kind of man you are looking for.
Wednesday, 19 February 2014
I still think about my ex
Tammy says:
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. Throughout our relationship I've thought about my ex but I don't understand why. I don't feel any love for him or miss anything we had together because I'm better off now. I've thought about my ex to the point where I can't take it no more.. I would force myself to think about my ex and I being together but that only makes me feel nothing.. I don't miss him or the relationship.. I don't feel like I love him.. I feel scared for my current relationship. It's the best I've ever had and I don't want to lose it.. my heart is telling me to stay, but my mind is telling me to try to force something with my ex if I keep thinking about him.. my ex and I also did not have a very good relationship so I keep thinking what ifs since he said he's changed and still loves me after 3 years..
This is a serious case of denial - the reality is you still desire your ex, even though you're with a better guy. I'm afraid neither love nor lust do logic - we don't desire the most the ones who treat us best!
What's going on is the REVERSE of what you're saying - your MIND says stay, your heart and other parts are saying something else!
However, that doesn't mean you should necessarily seek out the other guy - it just means you need to be honest with yourself - you still desire him. Accept it as a fact! That does NOT make you a bad person - we cannot help what feelings we have.
However, what you feel and what you decide to do are separate things. Get some space to yourself, maybe a day or so on your own, and honestly ask yourself this question - what would make you really happy? Don't try and figure it out like a math problem - just listen to your heart. It doesn't use words or explanations, you just KNOW the answer. Whatever the answer is, that's where you need to go.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. Throughout our relationship I've thought about my ex but I don't understand why. I don't feel any love for him or miss anything we had together because I'm better off now. I've thought about my ex to the point where I can't take it no more.. I would force myself to think about my ex and I being together but that only makes me feel nothing.. I don't miss him or the relationship.. I don't feel like I love him.. I feel scared for my current relationship. It's the best I've ever had and I don't want to lose it.. my heart is telling me to stay, but my mind is telling me to try to force something with my ex if I keep thinking about him.. my ex and I also did not have a very good relationship so I keep thinking what ifs since he said he's changed and still loves me after 3 years..
This is a serious case of denial - the reality is you still desire your ex, even though you're with a better guy. I'm afraid neither love nor lust do logic - we don't desire the most the ones who treat us best!
What's going on is the REVERSE of what you're saying - your MIND says stay, your heart and other parts are saying something else!
However, that doesn't mean you should necessarily seek out the other guy - it just means you need to be honest with yourself - you still desire him. Accept it as a fact! That does NOT make you a bad person - we cannot help what feelings we have.
However, what you feel and what you decide to do are separate things. Get some space to yourself, maybe a day or so on your own, and honestly ask yourself this question - what would make you really happy? Don't try and figure it out like a math problem - just listen to your heart. It doesn't use words or explanations, you just KNOW the answer. Whatever the answer is, that's where you need to go.
Thursday, 13 February 2014
He doesn't seem to know what he wants
Future Author And Critic Says:
My ex and I broke up in early December. We had been together for almost 3 years. We broke up because I didn't realize that I was pushing him away (I didn't mean to). Then the day after we broke up he started to date some girl from his school. However, he had been cheating consistently on her with me for two months. Last month he was saying all of these things like he missed me, and that he loves me. But a few days ago he only said that stuff because he didn't want to lose me. I brought up how he lied to me and how it really hurt me because I still love him and he told me that he didn't know what he was doing?
What does that mean? And I know he didn't say those things just for sex because we agreed to have a friends with benefits relationship before he started saying those things. Is he just confused on what he wants because I accidentally pushed him away? I'm pretty sure he still loves me but he seems confused.
Greedy rather than confused might be a better word - this is a guy who wants to have his cake and eat it. I know you don't want to let him go, but if you want to hurt less in the long run, and keep your self-respect, ditch this immature individual right now.
He knows how to mess with your head and push your buttons, and the only way it will stop is for you to put yourself out of reach. Settle for nothing less than absolute loyalty, honesty and trust. This guy cannot and will never give you any of these. it will hurt and you will cry, but you'll cry a lot more and hurt a lot more if you let this go on.
My ex and I broke up in early December. We had been together for almost 3 years. We broke up because I didn't realize that I was pushing him away (I didn't mean to). Then the day after we broke up he started to date some girl from his school. However, he had been cheating consistently on her with me for two months. Last month he was saying all of these things like he missed me, and that he loves me. But a few days ago he only said that stuff because he didn't want to lose me. I brought up how he lied to me and how it really hurt me because I still love him and he told me that he didn't know what he was doing?
What does that mean? And I know he didn't say those things just for sex because we agreed to have a friends with benefits relationship before he started saying those things. Is he just confused on what he wants because I accidentally pushed him away? I'm pretty sure he still loves me but he seems confused.
Greedy rather than confused might be a better word - this is a guy who wants to have his cake and eat it. I know you don't want to let him go, but if you want to hurt less in the long run, and keep your self-respect, ditch this immature individual right now.
He knows how to mess with your head and push your buttons, and the only way it will stop is for you to put yourself out of reach. Settle for nothing less than absolute loyalty, honesty and trust. This guy cannot and will never give you any of these. it will hurt and you will cry, but you'll cry a lot more and hurt a lot more if you let this go on.
Thursday, 6 February 2014
I slept with my best friend's brother
Jesse says:
I really like my best friend even tho he has a girlfriend, I don't try to break them up or anything. But before they got together I told him I had feelings for him, but he had just got out of a relationship like a week before when I told him. He's a shy guy, and gets embarrassed over everything especially in front of me. He still flirts with me & touches my legs and stuff and stares at me in class & always smiles at me. Were super close. He told me to sleep with his older brother, and idid. After that, he got kinda sad I noticed. But yet he told me to do it.. I mean I know I don't have a chance since he has a girlfriend. Our friendship is still the same.. But why does he do This?! He's giving me so many mixed emotions. I know I need to move on but I'm stuck.
I really like my best friend even tho he has a girlfriend, I don't try to break them up or anything. But before they got together I told him I had feelings for him, but he had just got out of a relationship like a week before when I told him. He's a shy guy, and gets embarrassed over everything especially in front of me. He still flirts with me & touches my legs and stuff and stares at me in class & always smiles at me. Were super close. He told me to sleep with his older brother, and idid. After that, he got kinda sad I noticed. But yet he told me to do it.. I mean I know I don't have a chance since he has a girlfriend. Our friendship is still the same.. But why does he do This?! He's giving me so many mixed emotions. I know I need to move on but I'm stuck.
You sound like two people who don't have the balls to disappoint other
people and get what they really want, which is each other. Somebody here
needs to start being decisive. I think you know it was a mistake to
sleep with his brother because it's not what you actually wanted and has
only complicated matters.
If you still want this guy then grow a pair and tell him how you feel and see if he's got the balls to make a clear choice. Take anything other than you right now as a no and move on. In future, bear in mind that sometimes you have to disappoint and frankly defeat the competition if you want to be happy and fulfill your heart's desire. Grow yourself some courage and decide for yourself who sleep with, not as suggested by anyone else.
If you still want this guy then grow a pair and tell him how you feel and see if he's got the balls to make a clear choice. Take anything other than you right now as a no and move on. In future, bear in mind that sometimes you have to disappoint and frankly defeat the competition if you want to be happy and fulfill your heart's desire. Grow yourself some courage and decide for yourself who sleep with, not as suggested by anyone else.
Friday, 31 January 2014
He remarried and gave my half-sister my name!
Lynda Dixon says:
My dad and mom divorced when I was 3 years old, I met my real dad for the first time at seven years old by this time he and his new wife name there first daughter the same name as mine? Who would do something like this to a child, in a situation like this the damage it caused for me emotionally is so deep , my siblings my real sister and brothers never showed any concern or reassurance I was as important as the other lynda, no one cared, no one noticed,??
It is certainly a very odd thing to do! By your dad choosing to do this, he is suggesting you were somehow a mistake and your half-sister is the real deal. He might not have actually intended to imply that, but it is at the very least grossly insensitive.
Parents divorcing is always very hard on the child - there is often a feeling in the child that it's somehow their fault. However you are not alone - there are plenty of us who found themselves lower priority than someone or something else. You should always be made to feel special, but the reality is you were not.
Your choice is now this - are you going to spend your life feeling sorry for yourself for what you didn't get, or are you going to make something of your life? If you want to be happy, you will need to be tough - you will have to believe in yourself when no one else seems to.
Put your own gifts and talents to good use and make a difference with them. You will eventually attract people who can see what you've got and respect you for it, and you will feel justified but, you only really need one believer and that's yourself. Get yourself out there and be unique, be special and make a difference.
My dad and mom divorced when I was 3 years old, I met my real dad for the first time at seven years old by this time he and his new wife name there first daughter the same name as mine? Who would do something like this to a child, in a situation like this the damage it caused for me emotionally is so deep , my siblings my real sister and brothers never showed any concern or reassurance I was as important as the other lynda, no one cared, no one noticed,??
It is certainly a very odd thing to do! By your dad choosing to do this, he is suggesting you were somehow a mistake and your half-sister is the real deal. He might not have actually intended to imply that, but it is at the very least grossly insensitive.
Parents divorcing is always very hard on the child - there is often a feeling in the child that it's somehow their fault. However you are not alone - there are plenty of us who found themselves lower priority than someone or something else. You should always be made to feel special, but the reality is you were not.
Your choice is now this - are you going to spend your life feeling sorry for yourself for what you didn't get, or are you going to make something of your life? If you want to be happy, you will need to be tough - you will have to believe in yourself when no one else seems to.
Put your own gifts and talents to good use and make a difference with them. You will eventually attract people who can see what you've got and respect you for it, and you will feel justified but, you only really need one believer and that's yourself. Get yourself out there and be unique, be special and make a difference.
Tuesday, 28 January 2014
Should I stay with my girlfriend?
Anish says:
We have been together for more than a month. I love her a lot but I don't trust her blindly becuase I am afraid that she will leave me one day.
I was her good friend when she was with her ex bf. She broke up with him becuz her bf was 2-timing! We fell in love and now we are together. She has had a lot of boyfriends and she broke many of their hearts, so I am little afraid to be with her.
Most of her close friends told me to break up with her because they think that she is using me and thinks that love is a game. They say her mentality is like " you can't be with a boy forever", so I am afraid to be with her. But when I told her she would leave me one day so we should break up, she started crying and told me trust her.I have trusted her, but now her friends are still telling me to break up with her becuause she is not trustworthy! I am confused too what should I do??
Forget the friends already! Do you really like this girl? If so just keep going. EVERY relationship is a risky business. There are no guarantees! If you want a relationship, you live with the risk.
My advice is trust her absolutely until or unless you have absolute proof she has betrayed you. If it doesn't work out, do the same with any relationship. You may get hurt, but you can get hurt doing anything - that's life. If you burn, you will learn, but don't let that stop you beginning again.
We have been together for more than a month. I love her a lot but I don't trust her blindly becuase I am afraid that she will leave me one day.
I was her good friend when she was with her ex bf. She broke up with him becuz her bf was 2-timing! We fell in love and now we are together. She has had a lot of boyfriends and she broke many of their hearts, so I am little afraid to be with her.
Most of her close friends told me to break up with her because they think that she is using me and thinks that love is a game. They say her mentality is like " you can't be with a boy forever", so I am afraid to be with her. But when I told her she would leave me one day so we should break up, she started crying and told me trust her.I have trusted her, but now her friends are still telling me to break up with her becuause she is not trustworthy! I am confused too what should I do??
Forget the friends already! Do you really like this girl? If so just keep going. EVERY relationship is a risky business. There are no guarantees! If you want a relationship, you live with the risk.
My advice is trust her absolutely until or unless you have absolute proof she has betrayed you. If it doesn't work out, do the same with any relationship. You may get hurt, but you can get hurt doing anything - that's life. If you burn, you will learn, but don't let that stop you beginning again.
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