Ryan says
When I first had sex with my girlfriend it was her first time - we had anal sex.
She was in great pain when I first put it in. I'm not sure now whether
she wanted it too or I pressured her. She wasn't very comfortable with
me trying to put my dick in. Somehow a red patch of blood appeared and
we assumed it was the hymen and we checked her vagina. I could put two
fingers in and she just froze there for about an hour and then she
started crying uncontrollably and kept saying' "I have lost my virginity!
I'm no longer a virgin!" she was distraught.
After that, we had vaginal
sex. Sometimes, she would tear during sex and whenever she had sex with
me she would just gaze into my eyes but wouldn't get aroused or anything
like that. And suddenly she would just throw me a hug and tell me ' I
love you please don't ever leave me'. On another occasion she had her period but I didn't
care and still wanted it. She didn't want to but she allowed it. On another occasion, we had sex but she didn't look in the mood
and I ticked her off. Whenever we had sex, prior to that, we never had
any discussion.
Good news is from what I can gather is that your seem to want to be
together and care about each other so that's something to build on. But
you've both got a lot to learn about sex and communication.
She desperately wants to please you and is trying way too hard. You need
to reassure her that you are not going to leave her just because she's
not in the mood occasionally, and you must show that by not pushing for
it even when you're horny. Insist that you only want sex if she does. A
good discreet fap on a regular basis will help you be more sensitive to
her and stop your libido getting in the way.
She will need lots of cuddles and hugs that don't need to lead to sex to
reassure her. Also learn to give her massages - again without leading
to sex. This is a very good way of finding out how she likes to be
touched and what she doesn't like. Then, when you do have sex, you will
do will be able to make her feel good. Sex will be much better if she's
highly aroused rather than just desperate to keep you.
It's great that you've started discussing things. Keep doing that and your relationship will grow stronger.
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