John says:
I've been seeing my girlfriend for several months and she lived with me for a while. The smell
from her vagina has never been the best, as a result our sex life has
been rocky, I didn't have sex with her unless she was right out of a
shower. I never explained why to her, until after we broke up (for other
reasons) But we recently decided to get back together. She doesnt live
with me now.
I cant predict when shes showered so our sex-life is non existent.
She got so frustrated over it that she asked me if I was gay, and it certainly seemed like I wasn't interested. I finally explained why
yesterday. I was nice about it, and we talked about it. She told me she
didn't have insurance to see a gynecologist So I said I'd help her out
with it. I was supposed to go see her last night, but she stopped
talking to me and hasn't replied to my text or calls. Shes been on Facebook talking and replying to other people's comments. I'm not sure whats
going through her mind right now.Should I just leave her alone and give
her time? Is she going to break up with me over this?
You have done absolutely the right thing - you have been open and honest
about how you feel. If vaginal odour is a problem for you then she
needed to know. Unfortunately she's not obliged to take it well!
She is probably angry, hurt and upset - ladies especially find it really
hard to be criticized in this way. But if she wants to be with you, she
will need to get over it and address it or dump you. If she dumps you
then fine - you know where you are and she was never the right girl for
you.
She might however decide to "punish" you by keeping you hanging. By all
means give her some space, but not infinite space. You will alone have
to decide how long you are prepared to wait.
For long-term relationships to work, both partners have to be
compatible. Being mostly compatible or fairly compatible won't cut it.
She needs to be as open in her feelings as you have been. If she can't
or won't, the relationship has run its course and it's time to move on.
Showing posts with label health. Show all posts
Showing posts with label health. Show all posts
Tuesday, 3 June 2014
Tuesday, 18 February 2014
Why do young people have sex so soon?
Sammi says:
Just wanted to get some views. Basically found out yesterday my 15year old sis has had sex. Now i can't judge because I two first had sex at 15, but the difference is I had a lot more crap going on and my bf at the time, made out he'd take me away from it all and love me forever blah blah, soon disappeared after and I wasn't in a good place to make a mature decision, just did it. Now there's 8years difference between us and I always hoped and talk to her about just waiting til 16 so she's a bit more mature and knows everything about sex and protection, brief detail, never promoted it. But she's done the same.
Why are children ranging from 12-15yrs having sex. I have a 2yr old daughter and I'm now worried that in the long future, is my daughter to going to be having sex young? Is it the schools fault for poor sex education or the parents? Are the friends they hang around with, encouraging it or promoting it as the cool thing to be doing as soon as possible? In the uk the law says 16 is the legal age to have sex and work, just like 17 to drive, 18 to drink. I've always thought 16 was young, sex affects you with out you realising at that age, I remember just feeling empty after, like oh that's all he wanted from me. It's happened now and I hope my sis had a better experience and never regrets it, but now it's the part of possible young pregnancy and I think that scares me more, don't want that for her or to consider abortion, you know what I mean, sex complicates everything if your not mature enough to deal with it like an adult. Yeh it's fun, and I was stupid when I was younger but is this society in the next decade still going to see an increase of under age sex, young pregnancies and more abortions due to this, or kids from broken homes, in foster care? More children on benefits because their not even legal to work yet and then have to claim for the rest of their life because they don't have qualifications as couldn't finish high school? It's just shocking and worrying now. You can see now in the 21st century, kids just don't stay kids and want to be adults straight away. But how do we slow them down and make them see being a child is a great thing and goes too quickly, you spend your whole life being an adult, it's boring! Sex is every where so I will talk to my kids at an appropriate age, but what's that age? I'm not one of those people, I have a health view on sex and will hopefully make sure my kids do too. 'm just asking.
If a teen wants to have sex, there's not a lot you can do to stop it directly. We can however help the situation a lot by providing lots of free non-judgemental help, education, advice and support, so they are fully aware of the consequences and the different mindsets of boys and girls, which basically boil down to this: boys have relationships to get sex, and girls have sex to get relationships.
This gives a shrewd girl a degree of power - she can set the terms, time and place. Boys who use the "you would if you love me" tactic can be responded with "if you love me you'll wait until I'm ready". On a practical note, any girl having unprotected sex needs in the first instance to get the morning after pill, and secondly get herself tested for chlamydia and HIV.
Guys and girls who are better informed and understand each other will make better decisions, but there will always be fools.
Just wanted to get some views. Basically found out yesterday my 15year old sis has had sex. Now i can't judge because I two first had sex at 15, but the difference is I had a lot more crap going on and my bf at the time, made out he'd take me away from it all and love me forever blah blah, soon disappeared after and I wasn't in a good place to make a mature decision, just did it. Now there's 8years difference between us and I always hoped and talk to her about just waiting til 16 so she's a bit more mature and knows everything about sex and protection, brief detail, never promoted it. But she's done the same.
Why are children ranging from 12-15yrs having sex. I have a 2yr old daughter and I'm now worried that in the long future, is my daughter to going to be having sex young? Is it the schools fault for poor sex education or the parents? Are the friends they hang around with, encouraging it or promoting it as the cool thing to be doing as soon as possible? In the uk the law says 16 is the legal age to have sex and work, just like 17 to drive, 18 to drink. I've always thought 16 was young, sex affects you with out you realising at that age, I remember just feeling empty after, like oh that's all he wanted from me. It's happened now and I hope my sis had a better experience and never regrets it, but now it's the part of possible young pregnancy and I think that scares me more, don't want that for her or to consider abortion, you know what I mean, sex complicates everything if your not mature enough to deal with it like an adult. Yeh it's fun, and I was stupid when I was younger but is this society in the next decade still going to see an increase of under age sex, young pregnancies and more abortions due to this, or kids from broken homes, in foster care? More children on benefits because their not even legal to work yet and then have to claim for the rest of their life because they don't have qualifications as couldn't finish high school? It's just shocking and worrying now. You can see now in the 21st century, kids just don't stay kids and want to be adults straight away. But how do we slow them down and make them see being a child is a great thing and goes too quickly, you spend your whole life being an adult, it's boring! Sex is every where so I will talk to my kids at an appropriate age, but what's that age? I'm not one of those people, I have a health view on sex and will hopefully make sure my kids do too. 'm just asking.
If a teen wants to have sex, there's not a lot you can do to stop it directly. We can however help the situation a lot by providing lots of free non-judgemental help, education, advice and support, so they are fully aware of the consequences and the different mindsets of boys and girls, which basically boil down to this: boys have relationships to get sex, and girls have sex to get relationships.
This gives a shrewd girl a degree of power - she can set the terms, time and place. Boys who use the "you would if you love me" tactic can be responded with "if you love me you'll wait until I'm ready". On a practical note, any girl having unprotected sex needs in the first instance to get the morning after pill, and secondly get herself tested for chlamydia and HIV.
Guys and girls who are better informed and understand each other will make better decisions, but there will always be fools.
Tuesday, 28 January 2014
I find it a bit painful when i use a dildo or vibrator
Loganlermanfan22 says:
I try to relax and not tense up and think it's going to hurt, but i
can't help but think that. even with sex i'm unable to enjoy it which is
annoying. i can;t even use tampons because it hurts me and find it
extremely uncomfortable :(
It sounds like you a suffering from a very common problem called vaginismus. The are many treatments available. Simply Google vaginismus and do some research or consult your doctor.
Thursday, 23 January 2014
My menstrual cycle is longer since my wedding
Princess says:
I have a regular 30 day cycle before my wedding. But after my wedding my cycle becomes longer as it is of 39 days first month of wedding , 36 day second month of wedding and now i am due with my cycle length of 37 days. Also i have unprotected sex this month for first 19 days while had severe UTI. Can i be pregnant?
The pregnancy question has a quick answer - take a test, and soon! The sooner you know, the better. Regarding menstrual cycles, stress or sudden change of circumstances can certainly affect it - it is very susceptible to your state of mind, so I do not find this surprising. As you become settled into your new married status, it may settle down, but it depends on how stressful your circumstances are and your general state of health.
I have a regular 30 day cycle before my wedding. But after my wedding my cycle becomes longer as it is of 39 days first month of wedding , 36 day second month of wedding and now i am due with my cycle length of 37 days. Also i have unprotected sex this month for first 19 days while had severe UTI. Can i be pregnant?
The pregnancy question has a quick answer - take a test, and soon! The sooner you know, the better. Regarding menstrual cycles, stress or sudden change of circumstances can certainly affect it - it is very susceptible to your state of mind, so I do not find this surprising. As you become settled into your new married status, it may settle down, but it depends on how stressful your circumstances are and your general state of health.
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