Tamara says:
My bf works with all women. He runs a dance studio. I was one of his
students and we met this way and started a relationship. He instructs
other women and women work for him. I am always insecure that he is
around women. I am very attractive. Have a tight, fit body and he says I
am the most beautiful, sexy and desirable woman he knows.
But I always
have a fear in my heart. Because he is charismatic and will have
opportunities at every turn. I find this sometimes affects my
relationship with him as I am jealous and I let him know when things
bother me. I love him and we have the most incredible sex ever.
But I do
not know how to deal with this jealousy that I have. Is it rational?
Irrational? He is a friendly guy too. What if someone puts the moves on
him and he doesn't/can't refuse? How can I get over this without it
ruining our relationship? Could anyone offer advice? Never been in this
type of situation before. Oh, why couldn't he just be locked in a room
working on computers all day, all by himself???
What you are feeling will find sympathy with women everywhere, and quite
a few guys too! I have also had a few clients who came to me because
their jealousy was destroying their relationship, so it's a very common
issue.
The reality is that there are never any guarantees in even the best
relationships. If your relationship is very good right now, my advice is
always the same - trust absolutely until conclusively proven to be
betrayed. Make his very clear to him - it's all or nothing. Pledge to
him your absolute confidence in his professionalism and loyalty to you,
but if he betrays that trust, it will never be given again.
Having drawn that line and made that open expression of absolute faith
in him, instead of imagining him being tempted, imagine interesting
things he's going to get when he comes home!
The key to dealing with your own jealousy is a combination of open acts
of faith and keeping focus on happiness and gratitude. Worry is a prayer
to the universe to give you your worst nightmare, and gratitude is a
prayer for more good stuff please!
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